Are Parents of High School Students Too Permissive About Parties?

The existence of a "Fantasy Slut League" at Piedmont High School has parents and students wondering who is to blame for a contest where varsity athletes collected points for sexual activity with female classmates. Could it happen here?

In a letter to parents Friday, Piedmont High School’s principal revealed the existence of a “Fantasy Slut League” where varsity athletes collected points for sexual activity with female classmates.

"It has been reported that students on some of our Varsity Teams have set up a "Fantasy Slut League" in which our female students (unbeknownst to most of them) are drafted as part of the league," Principal Rich Kitchens' letter said. "Male students earn points for documented engagement in sexual activities with female students."

The letter failed to specify what teams participated in the practice, only that “over the past 5-6 years such a league has existed in one form or another as part of ‘bonding’ for some Varsity Teams during their seasons of sport.”

Commenters on Piedmont Patch identifying themselves as current and former students argued that the sexual activity would have happened even if the league never existed. “What the Parents need to understand is that you should be blaming the parties your 15-18 year old daughters go to not the league,” wrote someone who claimed to be a recent alum of the school.

Other commenters were dismayed by the principal's claim that the participating students now know the league was wrong because the possibility of discipline may damage their prospects when it's time to apply for college. "It is incredibly SAD that PHS students are most concerned about how this might affect their college applications and NOT that they regret harming another child," wrote a mother of two children in Piedmont schools.

The principal’s letter noted that the idea behind the league “was not unique to Piedmont High School.” What do you think? Could something like the Fantasy Slut League be part of Berkeley's high school athlete culture? Are parents and guardians too permissive when it comes to alcohol at high school parties? 

maddmom October 21, 2012 at 03:16 PM
Therein lies the trouble with matters as such! Unsupervised parties is epidemic in Berkeley. I have two sons. With one, we are a tight-knit group of parents: the kids are good friends, as are the parents, and the the guys know that the parents are all in touch with one another about sleepovers, parties, etc. The kids know we all understand and support, to some extent, their socializing and experimenting, yet we have expectations about their safety and developing good judgement. My other son does not have as tight of a network, and some of those parents have expressed NO desire or intent to keep in touch about things. Outta sight, outta mind. In fact, when I found my son blasted drunk once, I phoned the parents of the friends he was with, and they never bothered to call back to discuss this. I think this decision to 'ignore' this promotes the culture of over the top partying. Let's face it: it's way easier to 'parent' a teen by doing and saying nothing. The woes of parenting teenagers has to do with the fact that you have to constantly be 'talking' to them. It's a fine balance. A push and pull.
Mary October 21, 2012 at 07:19 PM
Yes, some parents are much too permissive about alcohol and unsupervised parties. Yes, it could easily happen here, especially now that ideas and info are transmitted instantly via high-tech equipment. Parents need to have frank discussions with their daughters about males who just want to use them to build up their egos. And they need to make their sons understand that girls and women are human beings, not objects to be used. And they need to talk to daughters and sons alike about the effects of alcohol abuse.


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