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A Little Selfishness Goes a Long Way

Small investments in our physical and emotional health allow us to be better partners, parents and/or friends. When we feel good about ourselves we are able to enjoy life more fully.

With the Holidays right around the corner, kids back in school and the hustle and bustle of our busy lives, we often struggle to find time to nourish our minds, bodies and relationships.   A couple weeks ago I wrote about finding ways to nurture our relationships and this article will focus more on nurturing ourselves and the implications on our mood, self esteem and our ability to be better partners, parents and/or friends.

We often think that to be our best in relationships we must give a lot and do a lot for others.  I however, believe that the more selfish we are with our time, our bodies and our mental energy, the better we can be in any relationship.  Let me explain....

For years we have heard about the benefits of exercise, yet we often find it hard to get to the gym or get outside for a bike ride, walk or run.  With the competing needs that our busy lives bring, we often put the needs of those we care about first.  What if instead of prioritizing the needs of others, we focused more on the value we can add to them by making time for our physical and emotional health? 

When we take time to exercise, to feed our minds with positive and healthy materials or to put healthy boundaries around who or how we spend our time, we actually position ourselves to improve our relationships .  When we feel good physically, it adds to our emotional strength.  We become empowered and make decisions more confidently.  As physically and emotionally strong, empowered and self confident people, we are more giving, less irritated, happier and have more energy to participate in life.  We sleep better, see the world more positively and are more attentive partners, parents and friends. 

Every small choice we make to invest in our own well-being adds to the longevity of our lives.  The more we invest in our physical and emotional health, the more we demonstrate our love to those we care about.  By choosing health, we optimize our chances of being around as long as possible to enjoy the meaningful relationships in our lives.

Seemingly small choices can add tremendous value to your life. Think about small ways to invest in yourself, become a role model for self care and in doing so, you will feel better and your partners, kids and/or friends will reap the benefits too.

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My2Cents May 23, 2013 at 08:32 am
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Smitty May 23, 2013 at 07:35 am
It's pretty clear that the least important content on the screens are the news stories and blogs.Read More The ads overpower the screens with their size and bright colors. While I understand the importance of ad revenue, ads don't bring readers to Patch. Good content does and Patch can't survive without that. Ad revenue won't continue without adequate viewership. If this topic can't generate anymore comments than the few that are here, then I think a significant number of people have walked away from their keyboards.
April Baby May 23, 2013 at 07:15 am
I've been amiss too about the new changes. Don't like the layout, and as I signed in the screen cutRead More out, and came back. I too can't even read the type I'm typing because it is so light! If they were bent on making improvements they could have made a few changes, not the whole site...It is way too busy to focus with all the ads, lists on the side, and layout....Not sure if time to adjust will help as it's a very difficult new design.
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Autumn Johnson (Editor) May 21, 2013 at 08:27 pm
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John Marchand May 21, 2013 at 06:31 pm
The light bulb is back on. Ironically, it was a device that was installed to protect the bulb fromRead More power surges that failed. When the bulb was reconnected to unfiltered power, it came back on.
Californicated1 May 22, 2013 at 03:21 pm
About the only electric vehicle I would consider buying is one that did not require charging off ofRead More any other sources other than its own--meaning that it charges its own batteries, either thorough motion while it's on the road or through something like solar cells charging up the batteries and keeping them charged, even when the car is parked and it's sitting in a parking lot on a sunny day--until that happens, no electric vehicle is going to be practical outside of anything other than short trips or the commute. And as for how you got your vehicle, are there any other "carrots" out there that can be dangled in front of you so you can follow them, even into the oblivion known as electric vehicles that require charging from a source that is not part of your vehicle--because that sounds stupid and foolish to me. It sounds more like it is somebody's Pavlovian experiment to change our behavior if we buy the electric cars being marketed out there instead of waiting for the next generation of technology out there, the kind that won't require charging up the batteries or keeping them charged with plugging into an external electricity source. Before I would consider purchasing an electric vehicle, it should be self-charging so that a trans-continental driving trip could be sustained and made without worrying about running the batteries down and taking extra time to charge them up.
Sean McMenamin May 21, 2013 at 10:59 am
as well take advantage of it. What I'm talking about is a reasonable rate for charging that isRead More within going rates, not the usurious rates charged by certain companies. I always love the hundred yard heroes who hide behind a false screen name
Sean McMenamin May 21, 2013 at 10:56 am
I'm not a greenie.....the only reason we leased one is, because of the tax loophole on the taxes weRead More already pay, we have an essentially free car for a couple of years. Maybe you're just upset because you weren't smart enough to figure that out and take advantage of it. Just like everyone with their solar panels; if we're all forced to pay for it, you may
Annie May 19, 2013 at 01:18 pm
Seriously? AFGAHN food? Why can't we just get a Red Lobster or something?
Scanner guy May 18, 2013 at 02:05 pm
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Eric Plummer May 18, 2013 at 09:57 am
Rafael and his crew do great work, and not just lawn service. He replaced our sprinkler system andRead More sodded two new lawns when we moved into our house. He and his crew have trimmed trees, planted flowers, and even built a new fence and gate. All at a fair price. I can't recommend his services enough.
chris fleckner May 15, 2013 at 08:50 am
Thank you D! We couldn't be happier to have a program like this in our community. We couldn't agreeRead More with you more that giving back is the whole purpose of the program; to make our community a stronger more musical one for our youth!
DRevier May 15, 2013 at 07:50 am
Kevin and Chris are good guys. They genuinely want to give back and care about introducing as manyRead More kids (young and old) as possible to the incredibly rewarding world of music. I am fortunate enough to have had somebody similar to these guys motivate me to get involved in music when I was a kid. 31 years later, I am still beatin’ on my drums every day. Great job Kev and Chris. Keep it up!