A Little Selfishness Goes a Long Way

Small investments in our physical and emotional health allow us to be better partners, parents and/or friends. When we feel good about ourselves we are able to enjoy life more fully.

With the Holidays right around the corner, kids back in school and the hustle and bustle of our busy lives, we often struggle to find time to nourish our minds, bodies and relationships.   A couple weeks ago I wrote about finding ways to nurture our relationships and this article will focus more on nurturing ourselves and the implications on our mood, self esteem and our ability to be better partners, parents and/or friends.

We often think that to be our best in relationships we must give a lot and do a lot for others.  I however, believe that the more selfish we are with our time, our bodies and our mental energy, the better we can be in any relationship.  Let me explain....

For years we have heard about the benefits of exercise, yet we often find it hard to get to the gym or get outside for a bike ride, walk or run.  With the competing needs that our busy lives bring, we often put the needs of those we care about first.  What if instead of prioritizing the needs of others, we focused more on the value we can add to them by making time for our physical and emotional health? 

When we take time to exercise, to feed our minds with positive and healthy materials or to put healthy boundaries around who or how we spend our time, we actually position ourselves to improve our relationships .  When we feel good physically, it adds to our emotional strength.  We become empowered and make decisions more confidently.  As physically and emotionally strong, empowered and self confident people, we are more giving, less irritated, happier and have more energy to participate in life.  We sleep better, see the world more positively and are more attentive partners, parents and friends. 

Every small choice we make to invest in our own well-being adds to the longevity of our lives.  The more we invest in our physical and emotional health, the more we demonstrate our love to those we care about.  By choosing health, we optimize our chances of being around as long as possible to enjoy the meaningful relationships in our lives.

Seemingly small choices can add tremendous value to your life. Think about small ways to invest in yourself, become a role model for self care and in doing so, you will feel better and your partners, kids and/or friends will reap the benefits too.

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Rich Buckley October 18, 2012 at 07:49 PM
I'm staggered by its relevance and positive energies. An on-line dream-page with John Kettler.com posted under the name of "slvrwillow", posted this from his/her recent dream: http://tinyurl.com/8ag4nqu "Recently (I) had (a dream) where I was in a discussion or ‘class’ and the topic was Love. "All I could remember was the instructor was showing and explaining how confused we are about that word. It’s been diluted and overused to the point of insignificance. ‘Holywood-ized’. "He then took a Diamond and put it on top of (in the middle of?) the word and suddenly (like a prism) many words came out of each facet, such as, kindness, gentle, compassion, sharing, nurture, honesty, integrity, listening, …etc. Then he took the Diamond, and just the word Love was there. Put it back and all the words would show up. He said every one of those words is a fragment of Love and its all interconnected. Not one fragment can be missing for the Diamond to be complete. Each quality/word has it’s purpose and value. In the end its all one word. Love. Yet each word is equally valuable. That reminds me of the concept of ‘We are all One’. Yes, but, we are One because we are all expressing a ‘quality’ and we are interconnected. Not a homogenized glob of One. (At least that’s how I’m understanding it at the moment)..."
Kelly M. Sharp October 19, 2012 at 03:23 PM
Thanks for the comment and for the feedback. It's amazing that when we feel good, we seem more open to others : )
Kelly M. Sharp October 19, 2012 at 03:24 PM
Thanks for the comment and for sharing this piece!
Californicated1 October 19, 2012 at 05:57 PM
Why does the wording in this article sound like it was based on the modified lyrics to a Depeche Mode tune? After reading this article, the wording seems to come from the modified lyrics found in "Get The Balance Right" from 1984: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XWK7QLvuI-I It will make me look forward to the next article and see what song that one will seem to be based on. My suggestion is to make it based on the Thompson Twins' "You Take Me Up", also from 1984.
Rich Buckley October 29, 2012 at 02:32 PM
Concerning Hurricane Sandy, Meditation: let us “visualize transmuting these massive forces of destruction into heart energies” http://tinyurl.com/9mebb37


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